The Echo would like to introduce you to our new advice columnist, Lance Gablehowser. A local man with a large world view, Lance will answer your questions about any problems you are having. Who is Lance? He is a pseudonym for someone you might know. He is a true individual and an everyman, all at once; a peon of positivity and a man with a plan. Lance has a penchant for problem-solving, a life mission to help others and decades of experience to draw from. Send him your questions at info@creemore.com.
Grabby grandson
Dear Lance,
My 18-year-old grandson just finished college, for which I was happy to pay his tuition. I am 82 years old and currently living in a retirement home, which is expensive. I still drive and I plan to trade in my six-year-old car for a better one. My grandson thinks I should give him the trade-in because I can afford to. Although I think he should accept a sense of responsibility, I have agreed to his proposal on the condition that he pay me back at a fair price on a regular basis. At this point, he doesn’t have a job, nor does he think my terms are fair. What should I do?
Crabby Gramma
Dear Gramma,
You are indeed between a rock and a hard place, and cast to the wolves regardless of either decision. However, I tend to agree with you, and your plan makes a lot of sense. It sounds to me as if the boy has had a free ride, and should be more appreciative of the offer his Gramma has made. You sound like my grandmother who was a very sweet lady – and very wise! Good luck to you and stick to your guns! Your grandson will be the better for it.
Lance Gablehowser
Musical moxie
Dear Lance,
Since I was a child, I have always wanted to be on Broadway. The trouble is, I had a job, then a family and house, and I have let life get in the way.
However, I just can’t stop thinking about this dream. How can I satisfy my yearning to be a musical star? Thank you for your help,
Artistic and Aging
Dear Artistic and Aging,
I admire your zest and determination to become a Broadway celebrity. Admittedly, it seems unrealistic at the moment, as many obstacles are in your path, but above all else, never give up on your dream.
During my years in the Royal Canadian Air Force, we had a slogan: “Nothing is impossible, it just takes a little longer.” There is an element of truth in that logic. I was 83 when I took up a new instrument, and although I realize your desire to accomplish your goal in a much earlier time frame, we never know where the road of life takes us.
Contact those in the business, discuss your hopes and dreams, keeps contacts alive – and who knows! One day, I will be standing in line to procure a ticket for your opening performance. Break a leg!
Lance Gablehowser